The Most Wonderful Time of the Year?
The most wonderful time of the year? It’s December, the month of very merry, holly jolly, and glad tidings! If that rings true for you, soak up every bit while also considering that those around you may be having a very different experience.
The holidays inundate us with pressure to accomplish and endure so much. Oh, what fun it is! If you’re having a hard time, instead of overcorrecting to full “bah, humbug!” mode, take a moment to reflect on what is inhibiting your peace. For some of us:
This time is a stark reminder of what’s missing—loved ones who have passed, people who broke our hearts, those too far away to be with us in person… Take great care in granting yourself the space to grieve, rather than ignoring or rejecting your real feelings. Think about how to honor the spirit of what you’re missing by revisiting old traditions or starting new ones.
Being around others we typically don’t see is a source of great pain. Unwanted opinions, judgments, or questions can make some gatherings far from celebratory events. Identify your boundaries and how to assert them. Choose wisely what you put your energy into, including how—and with whom— you are going to spend your time.
Our workloads are already too full and expenses so high that it is overwhelming to manage the extra stresses that come this time of year. Ask yourself: What would happen if I simply did less? Or moved a little slower? Remember that if you push yourself beyond your means (physically, emotionally, financially, etc.), you will end up with nothing left to give.
Seasonal depression sneaks back in to zap us of our energy and send us into moody spirals. SAD (seasonal affective disorder) is a real diagnosis that can be severe and debilitating, warranting support from a professional. Maintain a routine. Make efforts to increase exposure to sunlight/create a well-lit environment at home. Move your body with intention. Ask for help when you need it.
Allow yourself to indulge in what brings you true comfort and joy this month. Remember that it’s okay if what you want is different than what your family members, peers, business corporations, or social media influence you to believe you need.
Heeding the recommendations shared in this blog post isn’t easy, and that’s why you have (or need) a therapist! Reach out to us at Viewpoint if you or a loved one is struggling this holiday season. Call 859-442-8439 or visit our “Contact Us” page at http://www.viewpointpsych.com/contact-us.html.
About the Author:
Dr. Chelsea Esmeier, PsyD earned her doctorate from Xavier University. She is a licensed clinical psychologist and the Director of Assessment at Viewpoint Psychological Services. She works in the Crestview Hills office and offers a variety of testing and therapy services, including specialization in the impact of technology on wellbeing, self-esteem/body image, anxiety, ADHD, and adolescent development.
